Start Quacking

Never collect stamps. Or you may post out a huge parcel that will hurt everyone involved in sending and receiving of it.

This was from an article I read about six to seven years ago when I was studying in University. It simply means that one should communicate one’s unhappiness to the party involved, as soon as the unhappiness occurs, whether it is a big or small issue. Never keep the unhappiness to oneself until the unhappiness grows and rots one’s heart. By then, it will be too late to salvage any relationship.

Communication is especially important in a marriage. Anything deemed unimportant may be a bud leading to divorce. For example, the “always cool” husband may be too cool when it comes to giving the wife support when she is in desperate need. He may think that the issue is small and simply ask the wife to “relax”. The wife may not like it. Or the “always hardworking career minded” wife may think that she must share the load of contributing to the household income and thus often works late. The husband may think otherwise. Such misaligned thoughts, if not communicated, may lead to bigger issues of drifting apart in the relationship. If it is not voiced out, the stamp will start to collect. And it may post out in the end.

It does not matter how long one is married. Communication issues do not arise overnight. It hurts everyone involved if there is a divorce. The only way to salvage is to prevent the bud from growing in the first place. So, start quacking. Only through effective communication can a couple truly enjoy the companionship for a lifetime.