Who's Turn?

Love is complex. Love is a chemical reaction in our body that usually lasts for only about 2 years, very scientifically put. But in my mini Oxford Dictionary definition, love is a kind of wonderful feeling, fondness, warm affection, if it is truly found. But sometimes I wonder if a compromise is alright.

My friend, Jack, told me that he likes a friend of mine, Alice. Alice has a boyfriend already. However, the relationship is not stable. Should Jack go after Alice?

I thought the answer is obviously yes. I thought that if Alice's relationship with the boyfriend is strong, the relationship will not be affected by the intrusion of Jack. But if Alice's romantic relationship is weak, the relationship will end even without the appearance of Jack. Then, I guess it should be alright that Jack goes ahead and makes his move. But why wouldn't he approach her, when I am willing to help? (Note: Jack and Alice do not know each other.) Many reasons were given and one of them is “I do not want to be a third party.”

One of my friends, SK had similar experience, several years back. He approached the girl then, and found out that she had a boyfriend. However, he was not deterred by the fact. SK believed that she was his true love. Now, they are happily married. I felt that SK did the right thing in going after his love, facing up to his true feelings. (Wondered what will happen to SK if he didn’t make his move. Probably, he would have to settle for a compromised partner? Very unfair to both parties, I feel.)

Recently, another friend of mine, West, got to know a guy named, Jay (Obviously Jay is a guy and West is a girl.) She is interested in Jay but Jay has got no idea. (She did not have many chances to talk to Jay.) Coincidentally, both West and I know Jay. She told me to find out more information about Jay’s relationship status as it was not convenient for a girl to do so. She did not want to scare him off. Seems like she has a strategy!!! NOW LOOK HERE!!! Even girls are making their moves nowadays. They are proactive in searching for their love. What are the guys doing? A reversal of positions?

I believe that West will succeed in finding her true love, while Jack, I wish him all the best. And I wish everyone in the position similar to Jack, GOOD LUCK!!!